But there are a few things you should consider before comparing yourself to others:
First off, you DON’T KNOW their life – just what you perceive from the outside looking in. That marriage might be on the rocks, or that happy façade might be masking some inner demons or addictions. It’s never healthy to make sweeping generalizations about someone’s life and then wonder why you fall short.
Secondly, give yourself some credit. You’re doing the best you can right now, and you genuinely care about being a good human being. We’re all imperfect, but the point is that you’ve been given another miraculous gift to do and achieve and feel whatever you wish – a new day.
We often compare the superficial things, like physical appearance, wealth, and generally what someone has or can get. It’s not often that our self-talk leads us to the conclusion, “Wow that person is just so much more compassionate than I am!”
Remember when Tiger Woods was dominating golf so thoroughly that the odds makers would speculate his chance of winning versus the field in a tournament, or versus everyone else? When we compare, we tend compare ourselves to the highest attributes of “the field” as well, picking and choosing attributes instead of realizing they are part of real, flawed human beings – no wonder why we always lose!
Comparisons only lead to more comparisons. If we ever did work our tails off to achieve something we held in high regard but we’re doing it for the WRONG REASONS, there would be little or no satisfaction once we reached the top of the mountain – just another comparison that made us feel low and worthless again.
True peace, happiness, and contentment never comes from circumstances, things we get, or external factors, but from within. The only person you need to master is yourself, and then the whole universe will be in order.
So when you get the urge to compare yourself, it’s important to reframe your self-talk and thoughts. Think about how much good you do in the world on a daily basis. Take a deep look at all the wonderful things in your life and the successes you’ve achieved. Give yourself some credit and then realize there are a whole lot of people who probably hold YOU as an ideal to compare against!
If you really want to compare (or can’t stop), only look at the version of yourself from yesterday, or last week, or five years ago. Focus on the positive and the incredible opportunity to change your destiny in the future – starting this very minute!