You know the feeling – sometimes you’ve just got “it,” and everything you do or say seems to turn to gold, almost without effort. Everything just falls into place and you’re completely relaxed without a care in the world.
However, there are other times when you lack confidence, and it feels like you're stuck in a negative spiral, so mired in a swamp of pre-determination that no matter what you do, how hard you work, and how good your intentions, you're still going to fail.
Welcome to the world of confidence (or lack thereof), one of the only human psychological characteristics (other than love) that seems to spring from itself. Confidence is a fickle thing, self-perpetuating and in seemingly endless supply when you have it, almost impossible to summon when you don’t.
In fact, having confidence is far from just being cocksure, but a manifestation of the belief pattern and habits you hold every day.
You may not realize it, but confidence plays a major role in the success or failure – or degree within – of chiropractors, too.
In this two-part series, we'll cover just about everything you need to know to ensure that your well of confidence springs eternal.
To start, it’s important that you understand the behaviors and mindsets of confident people, versus those lacking self-confidence and esteem:
Traits of confident people:
Willing to learn from other people, including subordinates and employees
Take responsibility for their actions, and even their thoughts and feelings,
Accountable for results
Operate on principles
Not afraid to show flaws and be vulnerable
Don’t gossip or talk negatively about others
Have a mindset of abundance
Like spending time with people
Accepts differences of others
Can laugh at themselves
Make decisions quickly without second-guessing
Traits of insecure or non-confident people:
Seeks validations from others
Acts like a know-it-all, always out to prove something
Makes excuses for everything
Do what feels good
Inauthentic because they act like they are perfect/hides their flaws
Stay in comfort zone
Scared to take risks
Taker more than give
Worry what others will think
Can’t make decisions
Gets stuck in ruts of bad habits and old ways